Be aware of all the girls feelings! Sorry to tell you but men love women who can look after themselves, who aren't needy. Do some research -- but not too much People are going to Google each other and that's OK, but don't go overboard with your background checks. Are there money issues? Make it clear that you're just trying to make the conversation more interesting��you're not actually trying to disagree at every turn. Being really boring for both of you, but especially for your date. Make jokes to get out of the awkwardness of the situation if it tends to be. Don't try to be who you're not--it will soon backfire and it will also be very uncomfortable for you. When we see things that we like in others, it illuminates those things that we like and admire in ourselves. If you turn away from your drink, get into the habit of covering it with your hand, as it only takes a second to slip something into a drink. Even a lame pick up line can be endearing if you LOOK attractive and SMILE. I appreciate how [punctual/thoughtful/kind/generous, etc.] you are. Wait until you're emotionally available, confident in yourself, ready to put in time and energy. Ask them out after admitting your feelings if they admit feeling the same way about you. The word okay by itself, for instance, is the atomic bomb of conversation killers since it forces your date to come up with a new topic on the spot. If one stares at you and flirts and smiles all the time, she really likes you. After you have defined the woman of your dreams in terms of personality, body time, likes/dislikes, temper etc you move on to step three. Many Christian men don't go outside their faiths to find love, so if you're NOT Christian, forget it! Your perception--as well as theirs--has merit, and is worthy of your appreciation and attention. Don't bring your annoying, talkative friends around them, because they can be distracting. Wear clothes that make you look good. Can I blink? Don't force your smile. The first step to finding your ideal mate is a free dating paper and a pen.